First let's recognize and acknowledge the ways Mothers Day can be so lonely for some.
So you see those Hallmark commercials where the grown kids honor their mom with some loving attention and "thought enough to say the very best" in a card. Or kids who think on their own and make a craft showing mom their love and creativity from the heart. These acts of love are priceless. It is not the gift but the time the gift giver said to say I love you, I honor you in some way. That is really what mom's want on Mother's day. Just to be remembered.
But what do you do if your kids are grown and they are "to busy" or self centered to remember you or honor you in some way? The day can be lonely as thoughts of 18 years of caring for the needs spiritually,educationally, physically and more for that individual come flooding back. All the good and bad memories and the struggles and sacrifices you made come flooding back but they are not noticed or feel that way.
In times like that utter lack of honor on the part of grown kids can, if left to it's own, do traumatic damage to a mom's heart.
Another reason some feel so lonely on Mothers day is because they never had children and regret it or maybe even tried to have kids and could not for whatever medical of finical reasons.
Some suffer on mother's day because they lost their mom's too soon to death or maybe was an orphan and never knew their mom's. Some even maybe had mom's that where difficult and did not show love in a way you longed for and maybe have had disagreements and cuts ties.
Let's face it some of us sometimes suffer from one or more of these realities and at times when you see a mother and her kids out in public celebrating mothers day it can stab at your tender heart.
I can relate. I have experienced not one but three of these situations. I am writing this blog post on Mothers day May 2020 and will tell you today was one of the loneliest Mother's days I have ever experienced. But I have a message for you that you are not alone.
How To Deal With Loneliness on Mother's Day
The MOST IMPORTANT take away. Lastly know this, today as I write this and struggled with loneliness the Lord gave me something beautiful so beautiful it is to be shared and it is a message for you too. Diamonds are made in the dark pressure. They are pure and radiant. Someday you will have the moment that will blast ALL mother's days of all mother's days out of the planet when you stand before the Lord and everyone else in all eternity and he himself presents you with a crown of jewels laden with love and forged by your suffering in the dark loneliness, just as he suffered on the cross a dark loneliness and yet in that suffering you chose to give IN HIS name the heart of a mother and the heart of a Father which is unconditional LOVE to those around you in need. You have that to look forward to and no Hallmark card or Mother's day on earth WILL EVER compare.
So today on Mother's day go give LOVE to yourself and to others!